Things that I have taught myself

anxiety

These are the exact emotions I have been feeling in these past few days. I have been trying to understand what it is specifically (of all the numerous issues) that is keeping the grey cells in my brain busy and also greying my hair. It so happens (always) that I feel sad or low, but don’t actually know the reason, or may be I am too occupied to dig deep down and find out the root cause of the problem.

The present phase of my life makes me very happy. A loving husband, a beautiful house. Everything is perfect, except for one, CAREER, which has technically not yet kick started. You see, I have been a bright student, getting top grades throughout. I am kind of habituated to being competitive. I am happy when I see some friend getting promoted, some one getting an award for excellence, some one landing a dream job but unhappy about my present (Jobless) condition. Not that I am jealous. Just that when I reflect on what is my place amongst others, it upsets me. This constant urge to compare myself with others, measure myself according to other’s standards and achievements is lowering my confidence, corroding me  from inside and leaving me very unhappy.I know it is not right , but you know we all don’t always do what is right.

They say “Count your blessing”and believe me I do. And when I do that I feel at peace, satisfied , but then again the same cycle repeats. I feel lost . Not a good feeling.

This has started to worry me since it is happening a bit too often. But now, I have learnt to tackle this situation in a positive way, I have taught a few tips to myself and I am well equipped to handle any kind of negative feeling.  I am sharing these tips with all of you, and hopefully you will find it helpful too.

1. Knowing what is it that actually disturbs you.

First and foremost, You need to be in touch with your innermost feelings. Be sensitive to yourself. Sit down in a quite place, close your eyes, and think about all the probable causes. Pinpoint the one that is the cause of your current despair.

2. Now, that  you know the cause, ANALYSE IT.

You are the best person to judge your situation. You know why a certain situation has arisen and believe me you are the only one who knows the solution. Talk to a few close people, but do not expect any sympathy, who knows someone might give you a helpful advise. Also, talking out loud about your thoughts also helps to see things which you might have missed and it also helps to organise your thoughts in a defined manner.

3. Do not Sympathise with yourself , start working towards solving your problem.

Make a plan with your goal as the last point. Think of the things you need to do to reach your goal. Write it down and be determined to achieve what you have set out to achieve.

4. Do not let any negative influence on you.

Do not let people or other situation distract you or have a negative influence on you. Now you know what or who affects you, just keep that out of your radius.

5. Be Patient.

I believe, everything has an Incubation Period.You have to be patient during this period.Work on yourself.Work on the aspects which needs polishing. Discipline yourself and prepare yourself for the time when your reach your goal.

6. Attitude matters.

Remember that there is not a single person in this world who is not dealing with an issue. Everybody has some or the other problem. Do not concentrate on your problem with a magnifying lens and be a pain in the ass for others. Be calm and patient. Being positive will help the pores of your brain to be more permeable to ideas and useful resources. Visualise your self achieving the goal. Dream of it day and night. Motivate yourself. And always keep smiling, because attitude makes all the difference.

And in the end, when you do achieve your goal, be grateful to people who helped you and supported you. Be  humble and help people who need a direction.

I have learnt that If you truly desire something, you will achieve it. And with the right attitude, you will have a beautiful success story worth sharing with the world.

Success-Story

I am waiting for my success story to unfold and I am sure It will be worth sharing.

Cheers !

Home where memories are made.

Daily Prompt: Dream Home

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A home is a place where your soul breathes, 

           where it is caressed with love, care and ease.

A place you share with your loved ones,

            where prosperity flows in tonnes.

A place filled with smiles,  laughter and joy, 

           with family and friends, every single day you enjoy.

A place where sorrows are shared and tears are wiped, 

            it is where great values and virtues are imbibed.

A home is not just about great work of architecture, 

           it is more about the relationships you love and nurture.

A dream home is painted with colours that never fade, 

          because it is this place where memories are made.

Oh yes, I mind the gap!

Weekly Writing Challenge: Mind the Gap

Since I am in the UK presently, I cannot help but think of the announcements at all the tube stations about Minding the Gap. Of course, it has no relevance to the topic of discussion, but could not really stop myself from mentioning it.

Coming back to the point, The comment section does have a lot of discussion on Why this topic?

My personal view is that this is a relevant topic being discussed by people who are avid internet/ email users, who communicate with a wide variety of people through blogs, social networking sites, emails etc. So Why not?

Although I checked on the World is too complicated for a single strategy. It depends who I’m writing to. I only agree with the second part of the sentence. The kind of tone or the salutation you use in an email does not make the world any more or less complicated 😛

There is a gap, and you have to mind it. It is that Simple. 

I have more than 200 email addresses stored in my Gmail account, and I have grouped them into different categories, namely Friends, Family, Work and Acquaintances.

The mere fact that I have grouped them into these categories, suggest that I have a distinct place for each one of them in my life as well as Gmail Account. And that reflects in the  mails I write to them.

Etiquettes are nothing but manners, which we are taught right from school. Email etiquettes is just a subdivision.Salutations that one uses should be in sync with the content of the email. If I am corresponding with my Boss, I am sure to write Dear Sir or Respected Sir depending on the kind of work environment in the office. I am sure, I wont write Hey or Hi, even if my Boss is my Buddy out of office. The Boss holds a position, and that needs to be respected.And that is only fair. An email to friends and family, usually has an informal tone, and salutation used will be in accordance to that. I have just completed my education, and looking for a job, I email my resume to a many recruiters each day.I need to maintain a formal tone, I cannot start with Hi Billy, Kindly consider me for this X position. Even the covering letter has to be perfect which has the potential to get me a job. Likewise, when you ask for directions to a stranger on a road, you start with an Excuse me, Can you help me find this place?  You maintain that tone, you need not be taught that, You need not fret about it, You need not get confused. it’s fairly simple.

This behaviour, these manners just trickles down to writing emails. At the end of the day, It is just about being polite and respecting each other. It is as simple as saying Thank you and Welcome.

Home is where my Mom is

Daily Prompt: Far from Home

Tell us about the farthest you’ve ever traveled from home.

Photographers, artists, poets: show us DISTANCE.

It feels weird to see today’s daily prompt challenge. It is what I have been thinking in the past few days. Thinking about How far I have travelled from Home. Indeed.They say, Home is where the heart is.

But Home for me is where my mother is. Its been exactly 3 months since I have been away from her and in terms of distance, Google Maps suggests it is roughly around 10,000 km!! I got married 3 months back, and left home.Since then, I have been to so many different places.

Bangalore , my new home with my In-laws and my husband,

Scotland and Switzerland, my dream honeymoon destinations, that I thoroughly enjoyed  and absolutely loved,

UK,  where I stay now.

.. Amazing journey so far..But far far from Home.

Its been a ritual to call my mother twice everyday. Once at 12 pm and again at 4.30 pm.

But that is just not enough.I cannot see her react to the amazing stories I tell her, Cannot read her face when she is upset about something, Cannot see her laugh when I crack some stupid joke. Cannot see her smile when she sees my pictures. Everything just feels incomplete.

I have been away from her, during my studies for 3 years or so. but that was different. Different in a way, that I could be home every other weekend. Now, things have changed. New life, new people around, new responsibilities, new place, new culture.

The distance is more emotional more than anything else,it makes you weak, but you have to take it in your stride . Such is life and I Miss being with her.

Why a Blog?? A poem and 10 reasons!

Innumerable thoughts cross my mind each minute,each day,

I will pen it down somewhere..To myself, I say,

But days pass and minutes fade.

And till date, not a single note made.

Enough is enough, my conscience says,

To feel better, you must write each day.

With so may thoughts, you have a mind to Unclog

Aha!! I shall write a Blog, I will write a Blog.! 🙂 

With so many changes having taken place in my life in the last few months..

Graduating, Getting married, Moving to a new place, A foreign land, A lot of spare time at hand, New responsibilities,New people, New culture.

With such a beautiful life, I don’t want to mess. I felt it was necessary to channelise my thoughts.

Ill be adding a few more, as of now, my brain cells are whacked up and craving for a COFFEE.

So, here it goes.

My reasons for blogging.

  1. To be in tune with myself.
  2. To understand and organise my feelings.
  3. To have a constructive approach towards life
  4. To rediscover myself.         
  5. To rekindle my love of writing.
  6. To learn something new.
  7. To read other interesting blogs.
  8. To open up to the virtual world.
  9. To handle criticism
  10. To have fun!